Have you ever encountered a Christian and just been like, yo what are you on? I used to hate Christians. I didn’t understand how they could be so happy…all the time. It seemed fake. I felt like they were missing out on all the world and life had to offer, if they could just enjoy it for once.
I never wanted to change. It’s not necessary, right? We say to ourselves, “I’m a good person. I don’t hurt anybody. So what do I owe God?”
Recently, I watched two faith-inspired films (both I HIGHLY recommend).
1. I’m Not Ashamed is about a girl who tries to live her life for Jesus, but is constantly swayed by peer pressure. A line in this movie struck me: “I don’t think you’re making an impact. I think you’re the one being misled.”
2. Grace Unplugged is about a girl brought up in a worship background who tries to make it on her own in the secular music industry. The line that struck me here was, “If you want it just for yourself, there’s always going to be something missing.”
There’s always going to be something missing.
FOMO = the fear of missing out. The anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere.
For the last seven years of my life, it was impossible to be a Christian. There was just too much going on! Why would I let God hold me back from living a carefree life? Doesn’t he want us to enjoy ourselves and not miss out on the blessings, good times, and friendships?
But here’s the question: Who’s really missing out?
Those who are in the world but not following it (Of it)? Or those who are living “in the moment” and all about it? Take me the wrong way if you must, but there has to be a limit to happiness if it is only being supplied by the things around you. There has to be a limit to your own “goodness” if it’s not based on God’s. And that’s the truth.
After years of justifying my behavior by, “I’m a grown-up, I can drink and go out and date whoever I want!” “I’m a bad girl, that’s what I’m known for, I don’t care what people think about me!” “I don’t care what I get myself into, so what, I’ll face the consequences!” Well, that led to alcoholism, five failed relationships and an addiction to love (that’s a real thing), an FHM cover a month after giving my life to Christ (oh, irony) a bunch of offers for indecent roles, people I turned off and hurt, self-harm and abuse…and the worst, attempted suicide.
You may have a different story but let me ask again, who is really missing out?
Yup, I don’t miss that.
If you’ve ever been a fan of OTH, remember that scene where Brooke brings Mouth to a strip club and he’s so ecstatic but he sees her face, and she’s just bored? Brooke says, “Thanks, but this gets old, pretty quick.” Beyond drugs, drinking, and having a good time, what does the world say you’re missing out on if you’re not part of it? Success? Beauty? Popularity?
I don’t know about you, but if I could take back the years I wasn’t a Christian and relive them for Christ, I would. Party’s over. Everything I thought would satisfy me back then is either gone now or did not turn out as I had imagined. An empty heart crushed by empty dreams swallowed by an empty world. Yes, I’m telling you now, this world has nothing to offer. It is temporary and you will not get your satisfaction from it.
BUT WHAT DOES JESUS SAY
But let me also tell you this. When Jesus said in Matthew 16:26: “What good will it be for someone to gain the whole world (materialism, living for one’s self, instant gratification) yet forfeit their soul?”; he didn’t mean you had to suffer and never have fun. If there is anything I can assure you of, living a FREE life is fun.
It is fun to get home at 8:00 p.m. on a Friday night, and spend time with your family. It is fun to wake up without a hangover or crash. It is fun to not date around, or be in a relationship you constantly worry about. It is fun to hang out with friends, drinking soda.
It is fun to care about others and not yourself. It is fun to read the Bible every day. It is fun to pray and talk to God about absolutely anything. It is fun to go to church and Bible study and LEARN. It is fun to blast praise and worship music in the house. It is fun to be content in Christ and to trust Him in everything.
SO WHAT NOW
Is Jesus Christ who you’re living for? If He is not, then my friend, frankly I think you’re missing out. Slow down and stop running from God. He loves you so much and He doesn’t want to see you hurting over a world that could care less about your problems or situation. A world that is on to the next thing already when the thing now hasn’t even finished its sentence. A world that denies God, denies JOY (happiness is momentary,) and denies real love. I once asked someone dear to me, “Stripped of everything you know and you have, what then?” His answer? “I don’t know.” And he was the happiest person I had ever known.
It is our society that is experiencing the biggest FOMO because they’re missing out on God’s grace. So I leave you with this:
Ephesians 4:22 You were taught, with regard to your former way of life, to put off your old self, which is being corrupted by its DECEITFUL desires; to be made new in the attitude of your minds; and to put on the new self, created to be like God in true righteousness and holiness.